Traditionally, a horoscope was considered a must in Hindu marriages. But, today the scenario is different and not everyone opts for horoscope matching. Yet, some parents and couples too, insist on horoscope matching. This is often done before the boy match is finalised.
The next step is called “Pennu Kannal,” the ceremony that marks the meeting of the prospective bride and groom. Close relatives of both parties gather to meet the prospective bride/groom and get to know their families. The consent of the boy and the girl is taken during this time and at times, they ask for time to say a yes or no to the alliance. Once a positive decision is made, the elders in the family proceed with the wedding. Earlier, this occasion was strictly done only in the girl’s house. With changing attitudes and values, it is now common for the boy and the girl with their respective families to meet in a restaurant.
Once the boy and the girl give their nod to go ahead, elders decide on a date to conduct ‘Nischayam’ or the engagement ceremony. Earlier Nischayam was a family affair, often in bride’s house, when ‘Muhurtham,’ the time and date of the marriage is fixed with the astrologer’s help. Rings are exchanged between the boy and the girl. Nowadays, it is common to see people spending lavishly and announcing the ‘Muhurtham’, in the presence of hundreds of friends and relatives. Also, since the earlier days, there are people who do not conduct the engagement ceremony. Such people jump from Pennu Kannal to marriage directly.
Traditionally, marriages are conducted in the temple or Kalyana Mandapam (the wedding hall). The modern marriages are also often conducted at hotels and resorts. Both the bride and the groom and their respective families arrive at the wedding venue separately. The bride wears silk sari and the groom, wears dhothi. The nuptial ceremony takes place around the fire, where the bride and the groom sits with the priest, who keeps chanting vedic mantras. The ‘nadaswaram’ goes on in the background. The groom ties the “Thaali’ (mangalsutra) around the bride’s neck. Then, the bride and the groom take three rounds around the fire. Typical Kerala sadhya (feast) is served.
After that, at the auspicious time, the bride, the groom and his family leave for the groom’s house for ‘grihapravesham,’ that marks the bride’s entry to her new household.
Though this is what typically, a wedding in Kerala is like; it could vary depending upon communities and also religion. Most often a reception follows the wedding ceremony.
By: Omprakash B Singh
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